August 30, 2024
Story [#7]

The greatest myth.

Or a minute of elusive balance

Who doesn’t dream of a balanced, harmonious life?

Definitely not me.

It sounds so perfect.

Harmony.

Family.

Happy, healthy, caring, attentive, joyful.

Shared discoveries, events, experiences.

Work.

Without sucking the life out of you.

Pure enjoyment.

A sense of fulfillment, purpose.

A stable income. High!

You need a lot for balance.

Legacy and life's purpose.

Smart (and not) movies.

Exploration.

Free time.

Hobbies.

Friends.

Health.

Sports.

Travel.

Music.

Books.

Sleep.

Sex.

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Did I miss anything?
The Founder
What kind of balance doesn’t include all the important things?
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Let’s add more!

And this is not even the best part.

The juggler.

Juggling heavy clubs.

High up on a tightrope.

Add:

  • Rain
  • Siberian frost
  • A burning rope
  • Hurricane winds
  • Wild saber-toothed tigers

It’s not always fun for everyone.

Is taking out the trash part of the balance or not?

What about the window the kids broke (luckily, they didn’t get hurt)?

Life is full of pleasant and unpleasant surprises.

Anything can happen at any moment.

Maybe the rich and famous have found balance?

One becomes a monk, another grinds 16 hours a day, and another seems to have lost their mind completely.

How about the trust-fund babies?

Not a chance.

Everyone’s chasing this fully balanced life.

And me, of course. Why would I be any different?

But.

There is no such thing as balance.

It’s a myth.

Balance is a process, not a state.

It’s a constant dance:

  • This is on fire.
  • That’s broken.
  • Something fell off.
  • Over here, it’s dried up.

And when you understand and accept that,

You discover the main secret.

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Life is constant change. There are no static systems.
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Even "dead" matter is constantly changing due to entropy.
The Founder
So if that’s the case, then obsessing over not being able to reach this balance is just wasting your energy and time on meaningless suffering.
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People always want more. There’s always something new to chase after.

Spend time with family, but don’t lose your mind when you need to push hard at work...

And vice versa.

Just live.

Live your life.

Solve problems.

Help when you can.

Love when you feel it.

Be happy when there’s a reason.

It’s constant motion.

That’s. Just. How. It. Is.

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- Eugene

The Founder
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Hi, I’m Eugene.

I help entrepreneurs grow their businesses digitally, and regain the freedom to enjoy life fully.

I went from a freelancer in 2004 to the Founder of a global IT Outsourcing company with 80+ staff, $3M+ turnover, offices worldwide in 2020 and…

...back to lifestyle business with a small, cozy team in 2023.

Insane?

I’m here to share all my knowledge and 20+ years of entrepreneurial experience to help non-tech founders thrive.

My mission is to guide solopreneurs and small business owners through the complexities of today’s digital tech.

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